August

Ragtopday asked (in a comment) about the significance of the “august moms”

Almost 13 years ago, I happened to find myself pregnant. (Okay — it wasn’t really an accident, as a fertility drug called Clomid was involved, but you get the idea).

Anyway, as things happen around the same time many other women found themselves in the same predicament. Also, around that time on the newsgroup misc.kids.pregnancy people were being encouraged to start groups for pregnant people based on the month of their due date. It really was a great resource as we discussed and debated many things. Before giving birth we discussed the relative merits of Lamaze and the Bradley method, circumcision or not, breastfeeding vs. bottle feeding. We’ve been through discussions about family beds and working outside the home vs. being a stay at home parent.

And, the amazing thing is that we’re still together. And active, and once a year we get together (the 2nd weekend in October) those of us that can (due to family schedules and finances and such) get together in some city somewhere in the country and eat and drink and shop and museum hop and generally spend time enjoying touring but mostly enjoying each other.

And, when I stop to think about it, as a group that originally got together because of our pregnancy and discussions about the kids, it’s amazing how little we talk about the kids now.

I’m going to steal this directly from Alto2s blog since she states it so well …

  • Because we’ve known each other for 13 years
  • Because we know just about all there is to know about each other: the good, the bad, and the ugly
  • Because we have ridden the highs and weathered the lows together
  • Because we are often better at running each others’ lives than our own
  • Because we trust each other to make good decisions for us, individually and collectively
  • Because we spend vast, intimate amounts of time together once a year, eating, drinking, shopping, and museum-hopping to our hearts’ delight
  • Because we can do all that without any filters or censors
  • Because we can do all that without wearing any hat other than “friend”
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3 responses to “August

  1. Hey, thanks for the background info! I love this story. I wonder how many other groups have been able to turn a short term need into a long term relationship the way you all have. My heart truly runneth over hearing stories like this – and I’m just a teensy bit envious. Hats off to you all!

  2. If you’re going to steal it, link it!!

  3. Alto2 — LINKED now

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